How low can you go?
Having a conversation this weekend with a few girlfriends over drinks, the topic of being on the down low came up. Most conversations about being on the down low would be about men, but no, not this time, it was about women. You would be totally amazed at how many women are on the down low.
One of my friends admitted to having a secret love with a very good girlfriend of hers for years. She said that they meet once or twice a week for a lunch quickie or on the weekends to steal an intimate moment or two. I was very happy for her because she finally shared this very important aspect of her life with her friends. She was afraid to tell her husband about the affair, because she feared he would not understand and would leave her.
I say most men have a fantasy about seeing or being with two women. Therefore, she should tell her husband about her fantasy and desires regarding being with another woman, just to see how he feels about it.
What do you think she should do?
I think she should ask him first to see how he feel about the situation. Then give a hypothetical "What if", using him and her as the example. If he cool whit it tell him, if not change the subject and keep it moving. I was in a relationship with a girl for 6 years and after the 6th year she told me she was getting it on with a chick a year prior to our 6th year. I was more upset because I just found this out, but if I had known earlier it would have been cool.
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A woman on the DL doesn't want a man in the mix. Why would you want a man in there? Most times the woman will go for the other woman. Be careful what you wish for...
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I think she should keep her candy to herself. Although she could still talk to him and get his feedback; I wouldn't share all of the details. I would just let him know what I was feeling. She wouldn't be able to really enjoy herself anymore if he knew all about it.
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